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Fredrick backman

A bullied boy, a fearless girl, and the promise that outlives her.

Who drives the story

Main characters

The narrator

An anxious, bullied boy from a small Swedish town who grows into a reclusive night-shift library cleaner. He wants to be left alone; what happens instead is that three generations of people refuse to leave him that way.

Appears in:
Part 1: You Don't Have a Choice
Part 2: The Night Cleaner and the Sad Turtle
Part 3: Learning to Be Needed
Themes:
Friendship as rescue
Grief that becomes a promise
The inheritance of care
Loneliness and the fear of being known

Matilda

The loud, fearless neighbor girl who claims the narrator as her friend in the schoolyard and protects him through childhood. She dies of cancer at seventeen, leaving him a white knight and a promise to keep playing.

Appears in:
Part 1: You Don't Have a Choice
Part 2: The Night Cleaner and the Sad Turtle
Part 3: Learning to Be Needed
Part 4: A Life He Didn't Know He Could Have
Themes:
Friendship as rescue
Grief that becomes a promise
The inheritance of care

Ester

A lost, crying girl who wanders into the Stockholm library and appoints herself the narrator's rescuer, calling him a sad turtle. She becomes a chess natural, then a teenager who tells him he's 'just a turtle' before moving away.

Appears in:
Part 2: The Night Cleaner and the Sad Turtle
Part 3: Learning to Be Needed
Part 4: A Life He Didn't Know He Could Have
Themes:
Friendship as rescue
Grief that becomes a promise
The inheritance of care

Petra

Ester's harried single-parent mother, abandoned by Ester's father. She thanks the narrator for his kindness and leaves him small gifts he can't bring himself to use, until she's sitting at his table.

Appears in:
Part 2: The Night Cleaner and the Sad Turtle
Part 4: A Life He Didn't Know He Could Have
Themes:
Loneliness and the fear of being known

Amir

A quiet boy at the community center chess club who reminds the narrator of his younger self. Caring for Amir after his father's heart attack teaches the narrator he can be needed.

Appears in:
Part 3: Learning to Be Needed
Part 4: A Life He Didn't Know He Could Have
Themes:
The inheritance of care

Hassan

Amir's widower father, who befriends the narrator over tea and shared silence. His heart attack forces the narrator into the role of caregiver.

Appears in:
Part 3: Learning to Be Needed
Part 4: A Life He Didn't Know He Could Have
Themes:
The inheritance of care

Also in the story

Supporting characters

Ove

Matilda's older brother, who teaches the two children chess in the cluttered family kitchen. The game he passes on becomes the thread of the narrator's whole life.

Appears in:
Part 1: You Don't Have a Choice

How they are connected

Key relationships

  • MatildaThe narrator

    The loud, fearless neighbor girl who claims the narrator as her friend in the schoolyard and protects him through childhood.

  • EsterThe narrator

    A lost, crying girl who wanders into the Stockholm library and appoints herself the narrator's rescuer, calling him a sad turtle.

  • PetraEster

    Ester's harried single-parent mother, abandoned by Ester's father.

  • PetraThe narrator

    She thanks the narrator for his kindness and leaves him small gifts he can't bring himself to use, until she's sitting at his table.

  • AmirThe narrator

    A quiet boy at the community center chess club who reminds the narrator of his younger self.

  • HassanThe narrator

    Amir's widower father, who befriends the narrator over tea and shared silence.

  • HassanAmir

    Amir's widower father, who befriends the narrator over tea and shared silence.

  • OveMatilda

    Matilda's older brother, who teaches the two children chess in the cluttered family kitchen.

  • OveThe narrator

    The game he passes on becomes the thread of the narrator's whole life.

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My Friends themes & symbols

Friendship as rescue · Grief that becomes a promise · The inheritance of care · Loneliness and the fear of being known

Themes explained

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